ok here is an update to my last post
All is well
after a short tence moment we talked things through, it was just a case of miss communication, one was giving space, the other though they had stoped loving them. mmmmm so all I can say folks is, thought it may hurt on the inside, just talk with your significant other. Sure things may no got the way you wanted them too, but at least you know, and you can stop being so anxious.
and no, I'm not giving out any gory details, I have to respect my other half her too.